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How Lupus Can Turn the Oldest-sister Role on Its Head

There’s a certain responsibility that goes along with being the oldest sister. Simply due to birth order, I was automatically a role model for the younger two. (Editor’s note: The photo above shows Kristiana, center, with her sisters, Niki, left, and Nesha.) But the thing about always being looked…

The ‘Girlfriend Experience’ is Much Different Because of Lupus

The typical Girlfriend Experience should be one filled with flowers and dates. Meeting loved ones. Family and friends for the holidays. But, when dating a woman with lupus, the Girlfriend Experience is dramatically different. Being a single mom meant I wasn’t the easiest person to date before my symptoms…

Staying Positive Creates Silver Linings

I’m a bit of a weirdo. There, I said it. I admit it. As an affirmation junkie, I am all about positive self-talk. I am always looking toward the positive side of life. There is a silver lining even in my diagnosis of lupus. Because of my outlook,…

Why I Refuse to Believe My Lupus is a ‘Lesson’

There are many things I believe wholeheartedly. I believe that if you send out good energy, that at the right time, it will come full circle and be repaid to you. I believe that in every moment I hold my life in my own hands, and although I’m…

How Lupus Taught Me to Live in the Moment

There is a lot to be said about your body showing you exactly who is the boss after a lifetime of thinking it was you. Once you realize that you are just along for the ride, it becomes a little easier to relinquish the keys, so to…

Determined to Determine the Point of it All

How many times have you heard that we go through ugly things in life to learn a lesson, or to be an example to someone else? The someone else part is a bit annoying, and reminds me of the joke that says “Hey, math, solve your own…