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About That Greener Grass

Going to a hated job is something so many people complain about. They don’t like their co-workers, and if you could give them a two-hour lunch and a nap in the middle of the day, they’d be in line to sign up. Once upon a time, I would…

Keeping the Joy in the Midst of the Storm

Earlier this year, I shared in a column that I am chasing remission, and that lupus has caused a shift in my spiritual beliefs. Today I find myself revisiting both of these subjects. Have you ever had an enemy who said you couldn’t do something, and it made…

I’m Tired of Being Polite About My Chronic Illness

When you’re chronically ill, an entire list of unwritten rules apply. Don’t be too vocal about your health struggles. Feel free to make waves, but just make sure they’re little ones, ’cause you wouldn’t want to make healthy people uncomfortable! Always accept advice from someone with a smile…

The ‘Normal Day’ Hangover

If you’ve ever partied like a rockstar, then you’ll know that while the night feels like it’s worth it, the next morning leaves you vowing never to party like that again. The night of a party is how it feels to have a high-energy, low-pain day with lupus.

Navigating Those Challenging Social Situations

I am visiting the United States after being away for two years. Quite a few people have reached out, wanting to spend some time with me. The first two weeks here in the States, I had an ugly flare that left me in pain and in bed. I…

Dear Healthcare Providers

Healthcare reform is a hot topic. People act like it’s a new subject, yet it has always been a controversial one. It seems that the attitude is if you don’t have the proper insurance, if you question the doctor, or if you insist that something is wrong…

The Dilemma of Whether or Not to Have Children

Having grown up in a very close-knit family with two sisters, having kids was something I never really thought about. I always knew I wanted them. For years, my mind held a vision of the future that included three small people: faces with exactly half my features, wearing…