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The Lethargic Reality of Lupus

I’ve tried writing this column about 10 times now. I’m struggling to keep my thoughts straight, my concentration on the task at hand, and my mind from wandering off in a daydream. There was a list of eight things I needed to do today, and I’ll be lucky…

When Liquor and Lupus Meet at a Party

“Shots! Shots! Shots! Shots!” The chant is repeated by my squad of friends at the bar. It’s my friend’s birthday and celebrations go hand in hand with alcohol. For many, it’s not a good birthday if you can walk a straight line at the end of the night.

About That Greener Grass

Going to a hated job is something so many people complain about. They don’t like their co-workers, and if you could give them a two-hour lunch and a nap in the middle of the day, they’d be in line to sign up. Once upon a time, I would…

Keeping the Joy in the Midst of the Storm

Earlier this year, I shared in a column that I am chasing remission, and that lupus has caused a shift in my spiritual beliefs. Today I find myself revisiting both of these subjects. Have you ever had an enemy who said you couldn’t do something, and it made…

I’m Tired of Being Polite About My Chronic Illness

When you’re chronically ill, an entire list of unwritten rules apply. Don’t be too vocal about your health struggles. Feel free to make waves, but just make sure they’re little ones, ’cause you wouldn’t want to make healthy people uncomfortable! Always accept advice from someone with a smile…

The ‘Normal Day’ Hangover

If you’ve ever partied like a rockstar, then you’ll know that while the night feels like it’s worth it, the next morning leaves you vowing never to party like that again. The night of a party is how it feels to have a high-energy, low-pain day with lupus.

Navigating Those Challenging Social Situations

I am visiting the United States after being away for two years. Quite a few people have reached out, wanting to spend some time with me. The first two weeks here in the States, I had an ugly flare that left me in pain and in bed. I…

I’m Getting Married and My Fiancé Hasn’t Seen Me Flare

Over the past two years, my diseases have been relatively stable, which is great. I am grateful to be on a medication regimen that keeps my diseases in check. However, what’s scary is that as a result of this longed-for stability, my fiancé has never seen me have…