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Most women make resolutions at the start of the year to lose weight. That was not my resolution. I loved my curves, especially my legs. I’m always in a great pair of high heels. I am, after all, the Hurricane in Heels. I was on the go, and wearing…

Part of living with lupus is knowing that your body lives outside of the norm. It means accepting that, for the most part, you have no predictable sleeping pattern, and if you should be lucky enough to regulate one, it’s pretty messed up. Living with lupus means…

There is no cure for lupus. As far as I know, there is no known cause for it, either. When I was first diagnosed, people who meant well would send me articles that mentioned cures. I know better than to buy into that hype, but a lupus patient…

Timid is an adjective that would’ve been used to describe me throughout my entire life. I just wasn’t born aggressive. When all the other kids were dying to bowl each other over to get to the ball, you’d find me trailing behind the pack, out of the action.

I have worn glasses since I was eight years old. I mostly wore glasses for driving at night, and for reading something far away. Because of this, I rarely wore my glasses to school. Then one day I woke up, 38 years old, and I couldn’t read the labels on…

I’m smiley, optimistic, and happy-go-lucky; it’s the way I’ve always been. I take everything in my stride, which is not to say that I don’t get knocked down. But no matter how many times or how hard I go down, I always get back up with a…

Since sharing that I was trying to find myself, I decided to get a little more in tune with myself. I decided to treat myself like the guy who has been granted that fourth date. The first date is awkward, the second…

Most of my life involved taking risks that were calculated and well-informed. I was never one who had the state of mind to just do things without thinking them through first. Yet, now that I should crave the safe and the easy more than ever, I can’t help…

I’ve got to hand it to you. You’re good at what you do. If your aim was to turn my life upside down and alter it beyond repair, then congratulations –you did it. You’ve worked hard to change me and it’s paid off. There’s very little trace of…

I was recently reading comments from one of the support groups and just kept thinking, “exactly,” and “I know that’s right,” and “YES!” So I decided I would share. It seems the more we share about our illness, the more people have a need to feel sorry for…