Lupus Is a Bully, and I Will Treat It as Such

Lupus Is a Bully, and I Will Treat It as Such

Recently, I was having a discussion about lupus. Because I’m a self-proclaimed joy junkie, I was asked why I say I am battling lupus instead of living with it.

The word battle seems negative. I look at living with something as being accepting of the behavior that is exhibited by whatever you have decided to live with. I live with eating differently because I have always been healthy, anyway. I live with being unable to climb volcanoes anymore. But I will not live with lupus.

One thing I’ve said repeatedly is that I am chasing remission. In my mind, to say I am living with lupus means I accept its behavior and I am working around it. Hence, there’s no point in chasing remission if I’m just going to live with it.

I see lupus as an abuser, a bully. It picks on innocent folks and forces them to do what it wants. I initially tried to fight it, and at times, I have been bent over and losing my lunch in the bushes. At other times, I have passed out. I’ve had multiple hospital stays and I’ve made many sacrifices.

From the start, when the doctor phoned me to deliver my diagnosis, I wanted to know my options. He told me that the best I could hope for was remission. I said I’d take that. He told me that it would be best if I accepted what was, and that remission was a crapshoot. I have done many things in this life after being told I shouldn’t, and I rarely take advice that is contrary to what I want. The doctor’s advice, while well-meaning, was not something I could accept.

In the past three years, I have finally achieved remission numbers. But a lot of trial and error has come with that. In that time, I have done my best to live with lupus, but it won’t allow me to. I have tiptoed and walked on eggshells only to have it show up and beat me up like the bully that it is.

I have allowed it to beat me into solitude, anxiety, and depression. No matter what I’ve done, or how I try to amend my behavior, it still shows up. Even when I received remission numbers, a lung infection showed up shortly after, and I am still dealing with it at the time of this writing. In that time, from February to June, I did my best to eat right, avoid going out, and conserve my energy. Yet, I still had months of misery — and that was with remission numbers.

I have decided to take every opportunity I can to enjoy myself. Lupus will not allow me to accept it and work around it. It will not allow me to predict its behavior so that we can live side by side in hateful harmony. It is a bully, and it likes to mistreat me for the fun of it. So, I will do my best to stick my tongue out and say, “Na-na, boo-boo,” as often as I can.

We shall not live in harmony. We will battle until I win.

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Kellie McRae BNS Writer
Kellie “Hurricane” McRae has been dubbed a force of nature. She’s the mother of 2 adults who know she is a force to be reckoned with. Diagnosed with Lupus in February 2016 after multiple hospital stays that had her saying her goodbyes to her family & writing her will she became a very vocal advocate. She has openly shared via Periscope what she calls coping while scoping and has helped many who got a fresh diagnosis as well as those who have been battling for a while. Kellie has taken on the idea that food is medicine and shares frequently the chemical ingredients found in some foods and she also shares recipe’s for great food. Food is medicine is part of her philosophy. After Lupus forced her to walk away from a 17 year career in Real Estate, she began an online business helping others go from “Coping to Cash flow” because not everyone gets approved for disability and still need to pay bills despite the unpredicatable issues that Lupus causes.
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Kellie McRae BNS Writer
Kellie “Hurricane” McRae has been dubbed a force of nature. She’s the mother of 2 adults who know she is a force to be reckoned with. Diagnosed with Lupus in February 2016 after multiple hospital stays that had her saying her goodbyes to her family & writing her will she became a very vocal advocate. She has openly shared via Periscope what she calls coping while scoping and has helped many who got a fresh diagnosis as well as those who have been battling for a while. Kellie has taken on the idea that food is medicine and shares frequently the chemical ingredients found in some foods and she also shares recipe’s for great food. Food is medicine is part of her philosophy. After Lupus forced her to walk away from a 17 year career in Real Estate, she began an online business helping others go from “Coping to Cash flow” because not everyone gets approved for disability and still need to pay bills despite the unpredicatable issues that Lupus causes.

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