Just Breathe: Trying to Calm the Chaos in My Brain

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by Darla Gay |

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Calming My Mind

I used to be a neat, organized person. Being diagnosed with lupus, however, turned my world upside down. I was bombarded with new words, new medications, and new doctors. Suddenly, I had to have a dozen different tests for things I had never heard of before. And somehow, the chaos in my body led to chaos in my whole life. 

When you give a perfectionist a disease that affects every part of their life the way lupus does, it’s enough to make them want to tear their hair out. I hate that I can’t do everything I used to do. I hate that I can’t work steadily until a project is done, rather than having to stop for a break after a couple of hours.

I hate that I can’t walk without gasping for breath after a few minutes. I hate that my brain can’t remember everything that I ask it to. I hate that I have turned into a person who never seems to finish a project. 

Meditation gives your brain a break

All these thoughts and emotions are swirling around in my brain, and it needs a break. I wish I were one of those people who can get their brain to stop and relax for a little while. I am always worrying about something, whether it needs worrying about or not. 

Lately, I have been trying to learn to meditate. I don’t know whether I’ll ever get to the point where I can focus solely on my breath for 10 minutes, but I keep trying. I can’t tell you how many meditation apps I’ve installed on my phone only to delete them in a couple of days because they don’t work. Actually, I think I’m what isn’t working. 

Focus on your breath

I try to focus on breathing in through my nose and out through my mouth.

In and out, in and out, in and Oh! I need to put flour on the grocery list. If I don’t do it right now, I’ll forget it. Stop that — you are supposed to be meditating!

Some days, my brain is like a precocious 3-year-old. 

But I keep trying. With a chronic illness like lupus, I need more peace and calm in my life. There are a lot of things I cannot control, but I will continue to try to control my breath and my mind. The benefits of meditation are worth the effort of learning to do it properly. 


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