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Knowing when and how to fill your cup with self-nurturing

We’ve heard it said that “you can’t pour from an empty cup.” It’s a reminder to “fill” ourselves before we “pour out” for someone else. Pouring out is an action we do to improve someone else’s life. That improvement could be momentary or it could affect them for a lifetime.

In dark moments with lupus, promise that you’ll fight for yourself

It’s so easy to jump on the woe-is-me, this-isn’t-fair, what-did-I-do-to-deserve-this bandwagon and shout, kick, and scream at the awful “bad luck” and horrible timing of chronic, incurable sickness.   Feeling like a victim and falling into grief can seem inescapable when unprovoked pain, flares of skin rashes, hair…

No one talks about the grief that chronic illness brings

Hey, friend, grab your tea and pull up a chair. I want to have an honest conversation about something we don’t talk about enough: grief. It’s not the kind of grief that comes with funerals and sympathy cards, but rather the quiet, sneaky kind that shows up when life doesn’t…

Putting my body on a performance improvement plan

As one year ends and another begins, many employers give job performance evaluations. That’s when, according to the Society for Human Resource Management, they or their supervisors commend workers for the impact they’ve made on the company and any recognizable or measurable outcomes they’ve helped produce. It’s also…

Bravo! While living with lupus, you can ‘do it real big.’

It’s amazing the number of times we hear people speak negatively about themselves or their circumstances. Staying free from the doldrums is a challenge when living with chronic, rare conditions. Honestly, who can stay positive when your body is home to an immune system that attacks and attacks and attacks?…