Am I Experiencing Karma From Past Judgmental Thoughts?

Am I Experiencing Karma From Past Judgmental Thoughts?
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There are times in my lupus battle when I feel karma is being delivered. Every bad thought I had about someone, every judgment I made, is heaped upon me. It’s odd to remember thinking or saying things that seemed so insignificant at the time, but perhaps had a bigger ripple effect than I realized.

Sometimes, I think about the movie “Sliding Doors,” in which a woman’s entire life is determined by whether she makes it to the train or misses the train. I think about things I’ve said or done. Perhaps, if I’d made a different choice, my life would be different. I know this isn’t completely true (at least, I hope not), but I’ve thought about it enough that I felt I should write about it.

Let me offer some examples.

Once upon a time, I was a personal trainer. A woman who came to the gym was so thin that we suspected she had an eating disorder. She ran on the treadmill almost daily for at least an hour and a half, and I thought on many occasions that she needed a cheeseburger!

I am guilty of seeing thin women in restaurants ordering salads and requesting “this” not be included or “that” be put on the side, and again, I think: “That woman is so thin that she needs all the stuff she’s excluding and a cheeseburger.”

Now, I am the skinny woman who removes certain ingredients and asks for things on the side because eating them will give me issues. Now, people may look at me with similar thoughts, and some even express them.

I was once going through airport security when I was informed my flight was delayed. The man taking my bags told me I now had time to eat.

I laughed, and asked, “Did you just say I was too skinny?”

He replied, “I’m just saying, they don’t have collard greens, fatback, and hog maw [whatever that is], but you got time to eat.” All I could do was laugh at his boldness.

In parking lots, I often slowed my car to allow someone to cross as they either entered or exited a store, and some moved slowly. I thought, “At least move like you mean it.”

Well, guess what? With these lungs, my fast pace is slower than others’ slow paces. With hip, knee, and ankle pain as constant companions, I don’t move very fast because it hurts and leaves me winded. I sometimes feel guilty if people insist I go in front of them, because I don’t “look sick” without my walker, and they will be annoyed by my pace.

I also reflect on times I’ve pitied certain people, such as an older person who had wet themselves, or worse. I never looked at them and thought I would be elderly one day. I never thought of the youth they may miss, the experiences they have had, or the history they have lived through. I just saw people who were frail and had soiled garments, and I felt sorry for them.

How disrespectful. Feeling sorry did nothing for them. The thought of someone feeling sorry for me pisses me off. It helps nothing, and there is no real reason for it.

In my 50 years, I’ve lived through quite a bit of history, I’ve traveled, I’ve done some pretty cool things, and I have a lot to share. But the older I get and the frailer I become, the more I realize that I will soon just be seen as a pitiable old woman.

I often wonder if I had been more compassionate, less judgmental, and more understanding, would my life be different? I often say that being diagnosed with lupus made me more understanding. I am so good at minding my own business now. When I see or hear others judging or shaming, I offer them a different scenario and ask if their perceptions are still the same based on the new set of circumstances.

Everyone has a story, and what we see is merely the cover. They say you should never judge a book by its cover. I am sure I’m not experiencing karma for my earlier thoughts and words, but just in case I am, I hope you will learn from my mistakes and mind your own business. Maybe you will have a happier outcome.

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Kellie “Hurricane” McRae has been dubbed a force of nature. She’s the mother of 2 adults who know she is a force to be reckoned with. Diagnosed with Lupus in February 2016 after multiple hospital stays that had her saying her goodbyes to her family & writing her will she became a very vocal advocate. She has openly shared via Periscope what she calls coping while scoping and has helped many who got a fresh diagnosis as well as those who have been battling for a while. Kellie has taken on the idea that food is medicine and shares frequently the chemical ingredients found in some foods and she also shares recipe’s for great food. Food is medicine is part of her philosophy. After Lupus forced her to walk away from a 17 year career in Real Estate, she began an online business helping others go from “Coping to Cash flow” because not everyone gets approved for disability and still need to pay bills despite the unpredicatable issues that Lupus causes.
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Kellie “Hurricane” McRae has been dubbed a force of nature. She’s the mother of 2 adults who know she is a force to be reckoned with. Diagnosed with Lupus in February 2016 after multiple hospital stays that had her saying her goodbyes to her family & writing her will she became a very vocal advocate. She has openly shared via Periscope what she calls coping while scoping and has helped many who got a fresh diagnosis as well as those who have been battling for a while. Kellie has taken on the idea that food is medicine and shares frequently the chemical ingredients found in some foods and she also shares recipe’s for great food. Food is medicine is part of her philosophy. After Lupus forced her to walk away from a 17 year career in Real Estate, she began an online business helping others go from “Coping to Cash flow” because not everyone gets approved for disability and still need to pay bills despite the unpredicatable issues that Lupus causes.

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6 comments

  1. Darlene McIntosh says:

    I don’t think it is all karma Kellie, I think most of it was society around us. We never knew or atleast I didn’t know what some of these diseases and medication, especially Lupus did to our bodies. If someone was thin they were probably anexoric. If they were overweight they ate too much & probably didn’t exercise. If I only knew the pain my body would give me at 71 I wouldn’t have done certain things. Steroid medication certainly hasn’t helped. Personally I think it all boils down to the strongest word I know “IF”. We would all be happier I think if we didn’t judge each other and the way we look because it one way or another we are all fighting a battle. Your articles are a wonderful inspiration to me Kellie and I look forward to reading them. Lets keep up the fight against this disease.

  2. Marcia says:

    Hi Kellie

    Always appreciate your post and youtube videos. You always give me something to ponder.
    I look at life situations and say
    “ it is what it is, peace, then take a breath”…. in that moment and beyond I’m free if I choose to be

    Once we know ( become conscious) better we can choose to do better. This life is a mystery

    • Kellie McRae says:

      Hi Marcia, Yes indeed life is a mystery, we never know what’s coming around the corner. It’s one of those thriller mysteries lol I like what you said about being free to choose who you want to be. Its true, I often say that being happy and joyful is a choice. Its not always the easy one but I think its better than the alternative. Thanks for commenting and watching my videos.

  3. Patricia Hurse says:

    I told my daughter that I never expected to be in pain every day. I was active. I walked 3-4miles everyday after work. Now I move so slow I rarely go anywhere besides doct ors. I never really judged because I was raised not to I was at church and said I in pain everyday. Another woman said everybody is.I didn’t look sick or had chronic pain. I was a LPN for 42yrs. I would still be working part time if not for all the pain and other things

    • Kellie McRae says:

      Hi Patricia, I would disagree with the woman who attempted to diminish you, no not everyone is in pain every day. I’m sorry that you are in pain I wish a solution could be found. It seems lupus has no care for if you lived healthily or not before diagnosis so I know its not karma but I did judge and I find it ironic that some of the things I judged others for are now my life. I learned what you already knew later in life but once you learn something good, you can’t help but go forward doing better….I hope. I hope you get some days where your pain isn’t as severe and have some really good energy days.

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