I’m Living My Best Life Yet Despite Lupus

I’m Living My Best Life Yet Despite Lupus

Whenever I write about lupus, I refer to it as a separate entity. In my mind, my journey with lupus is a battle; it’s always been a “me versus the enemy” situation. However, the significance of mentally detaching myself from the disease didn’t occur to me until recently.

I had an epiphany and realize now that my illness isn’t a fundamental part of me.

When you catch the flu, you don’t think of it as part of you. You see it as a parasite that’s temporarily set up camp in your body. When you’re frustrated with being unwell, you loathe the viral illness, you don’t hate yourself. I’ve learned to think of my chronic illness in the same way.

I may have lupus. But I am not the chronic illness that I carry — and it is not me.

Although lupus lives inside of me, when I picture it and myself, I see two entirely separate beings. My ability to mentally emancipate myself has played a crucial role in my journey toward acceptance and healing.

Disassociating myself from lupus means that I have a healthy outlet toward which I can direct negative feelings and emotions. When I feel frustration and anger, I don’t experience these feelings for myself. I am angry and frustrated at lupus.

Making an enemy out of my illness was one of the best things I’ve ever done. It gives me a way to express and release my feelings while allowing me to resolve my conflict. During the grieving process, I had something at which to be angry. Instead of internalizing my confusion, sorrow, and anger, and turning it into self-hatred, I gave it all to lupus.

I often picture lupus as a person. In my mind, lupus is the face of anyone who’s ever doubted me or told me that I couldn’t achieve something, rolled into one. He’s always present standing over me, particularly when I’m struggling. He whispers in my ear telling me that I should give up already, coaxing me to give in. But even when I’m broken and crying on my knees, I make sure that he sees that one step I take toward getting back on my feet.

When I broke away from my illness, I took back control of my life. I told myself that I was more powerful than lupus could ever be, that I didn’t have to merely survive, I could thrive and flourish even in his presence, but I had to be willing to fight for it.

Three years post-diagnosis and I’m living my best life yet. You’d be amazed at what you can do in spite of your enemy.

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Kristiana Page BNS Writer
Kristiana “Kristi” Page is a surfer, barista and university student studying an Arts/Science Degree in Philosophy/Mathematical Modelling. Living on the picturesque Bellarine Peninsula on the South-East coast of Australia, she’s deeply passionate about salt water in all forms, amazing coffee – even though she’s not allowed to drink it – and above all else traveling the world: one country at a time! Diagnosed with Stage IV: Lupus Nephritis at 20, she’s determined to not be defined by her auto-immune condition. Using writing as a medium for self-expression she hopes to share her life and journey to both raise awareness and support others in similar situations! A big believer in the concept of dialectics, she loves to share her usually unorthodox – and sometimes controversial – views with the world; and in turn have others share theirs with her. Quirky by choice, inquisitive by nature and above all else: smiling, always!
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Kristiana Page BNS Writer
Kristiana “Kristi” Page is a surfer, barista and university student studying an Arts/Science Degree in Philosophy/Mathematical Modelling. Living on the picturesque Bellarine Peninsula on the South-East coast of Australia, she’s deeply passionate about salt water in all forms, amazing coffee – even though she’s not allowed to drink it – and above all else traveling the world: one country at a time! Diagnosed with Stage IV: Lupus Nephritis at 20, she’s determined to not be defined by her auto-immune condition. Using writing as a medium for self-expression she hopes to share her life and journey to both raise awareness and support others in similar situations! A big believer in the concept of dialectics, she loves to share her usually unorthodox – and sometimes controversial – views with the world; and in turn have others share theirs with her. Quirky by choice, inquisitive by nature and above all else: smiling, always!

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